When he is home, he sleeps all the time. I dont think these tips for knowing if your husband is cheating is stupid. Hi! He is always gone to work weeks at a time out of town or state hes always jealous of other dudes wen he is around and doesnt want me talkin to n e one or n e one lookin at me hes very controling and argumentative and he jus started being this way about 1 year ago. Even on the days you feel weak and scared youre still growing and flourishing. I was shocked in midnight that men drove 40km to the village (farm) i just heard come out of the house iam outside. I dont even know how many women hes been with. or read Is He Cheating? I gave him a second chance, causiously. Available on Amazon or most bookstores Kindle or paperback! My husband and I have an active physical relationship but he spends more and more time on his computer and texting now. I see her at work daily. Its not like he isnt getting anything, just not enough. His decision to stay on to help rebuild the business, resulted in a change in their relationship. So frantically I called & text all night in to themorning & he didnt answer! It makes me think if he didnt erased the before why now after I ask. If you happen to be in the Muncie/Indiana area, and his name happens to be Donald then Hi!! Some times we mowan see it hard to decide of what we want in life, sorry to say that. I have cheated as well and Im more than willing to disclose my infidelities while we were together. And he said no that he only wants to be with me but that I always ask the same thing and that one day I might push him to do it. It was like he was living to seperate lives. As, he might have his wedding ring back on, but your marriage is far from what it was and will need a lot of hard work before you both feel close and in love again. I had a gut feeling by my observations of his actions. I do not know. The fact he cheated with someone I knew killed me.. Classy right. He also stayed at work more. I asked him about them pictures just recently, the ones he had on his desktop, the ones he deleted. 1. He lied about bills and got us into a lot of financial difficulty. I confronted him about the texts and told him I wanted to end our relationship, but he is adamant that nothing actually happened (he admits to leading the girl on via text but maintains that nothing else ever happened between them). Now he and I are back together, and they are still friends, and she talks about the other guys she dates, and I could care less. My husband cheats on me all the time; friends, friends of friends, friends wives/partners, doesnt matter anymore. I hav never been cheated on before (that I know of) and my 20 yr marriage ended because o other reasons .. my ex is now someone I appreciate because my now fiance cheats constantly and I think with hookers. In a few days from that first prayer, something kept gently nudging me one night check his phone. Whats the best option for me? My advice to you would be to stop the friendship before you get into a mess youre not prepared to deal with!! Youll have no one but yourself to blame if you wake up in 20 years after wasting your life trying to hold on to a man who has made it clear that he thinks youre not even worth trying to lie to. He rarely wants to discuss my concerns. I really dont need this crap in my life and this is not at all what I had signed up for. Am I really supposed to accept that his decision to stay with some woman in a company that was dead and had no money to pay him ruined our relationship, my trust of him, everything? My name is Melissa Ive been with my boyfriend for 15 years I lost my brother and father 2 years ago and me and my boyfriend started to get distant. We went through counseling to salvage our marriage. Why must he password protect his phone at home unless he has something to hide? I checked his phone and he had deleted the calls to and from her from his phone but I found them on the internet bill. His answer was he went out of town to get her car fixed and that he spent the night at a rest stop. When I asked why there were none for me he said it was because we are married and I am home everyday. Completely. I want to leave because I feel so angry of what he has done to me. 2. If you dont feel secure, safe, and settled in your relationship, then theres something wrong. my new thing with him is that we are closing our personal facebooks, and i just made one for both of us. One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. He gets upset with me if i go home at night. That is loving yourself and the solution starts there sweetie. I want you to come back and let me know how youre doing. I noticed he is also starts to be critical of me, moody when he comes home and sometimes get angry easily. Hey anonymous, pretty sure thats my husband your venting about. I was very upset with my husband but he keeps telling me nothing happened whenever i bring it up but the story always changes. I dont know if hes cheating or not, but am 100% sure that this isnt a good way to live! I work third shift and find myself wondering is he doing something behind my back? Its the most painful thing ever. So, if you are going to forgive him then do it. he never gave me the answers i wanted so I never forgave. Id have hated having my husband in my work space every single day. I didnt even recognize that I was severely depressed all those years! We are southern girl from GA and this type of behavior is looked down on , I :just want to give right advice, Hi i have a dilemma which started a few years ago my fiance started getting text messages to do with work from a female with kisses on . He is the only one I have ever been with. I havent had any gut feelings but im still scared hes cheating again and its starting to affect my everyday life. We had been dating for six months when my husband had to return home for family reasons. dont go looking for an excuse, end it right then and there. Of course he denied cheating. Your dad made a really bad choice to cheat on her, and your mom needed to know the truth. I feel he had sex with her and didnt want me to know so he made the story up. Don't give him a 50th chance. Why? something is fishy.keep a close on him.thats how cheating starts.. Hello, how could I find out that my husband keeps cheating. Yet, had the nerve to tell me he was going to the firehouse to get homework done, because our daughter was being a pain in the butt throwing a temper tantrum and he needed to concentrate. Either that, or he has joined a hook-up site and has found a married woman in which to have these trounces with. You get what You allow. According to Neuman, you can not only prevent your husband from being unfaithful, you can learn how to tell if hes lying about cheating. But dont feel alone lost it happened to me too! He then told me he and a much younger friend met a couple of girls at a bar and my husband was just being the wingman for his friend. However he was late getting home from work a few times about 25 minutes. When he came back he begged for me to get back with him. I swear he is a pathological lier . In 20113 is when he began to ask me if I knew her and I told him I did not. And a big time feminist(b/c shes Up With Woman). Some of them will deny an affair even if you present them with hard evidence. I want so much to believe me but that little voice tells me hes not being faithful to me. Because from those details I can piece together an entire picture of why it happened, therefore would be able to understand or forgive my husband. But to me, I will never ever trust him anymore. I started to laugh then get upset so I decide to cheat on him. then when i was pregnant with his child i left an answerphone message on her moby saying not to send x on text i find it offensive ( bareing in mind my fiance knew my ex husband had an affair with a woman at work so i felt fragile . You can be free, you can be healthy, you can learn to love again if you so choose. Think of porn as drinking coffee. Your honesty will help other wives deal with their husbands lying and cheating. I cant take it anymore. Maybe thats the best place to start. In June of 2010 a new Secretary was hired in his department. Its been 3 weeks since hes called as per our phone records, but whos to say he hasnt called from another phone. Then deeply breathe and say really? 10. The children are also the ones getting hurt in the situation! Faithfulness and marriage will become something of the past and soon enough obsolete. Its sad the authorities only think he wants to see his son and that I must be the problem since he was beating me. It began in 2009. When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact-finding mission. When he is home, I dont even get acknowledged anymore its like no matter what I feel like Im bothering him. Can you live with him, knowing that he may have cheated on you? Xox. We went to couples counseling to try to heal the wounds within our relationship. I believe the answer is no, because you said you cant tell him youre thinking of counseling. I would especially like him to talk about skype. So, your future husband may not be lying about cheating (unless of course you believe that visiting a cheating website is cheating, which I do). Sometimes writing your thoughts can help you work things out, because it can bring clarity and insight. Driver calls this the belly button rule.When were telling the truth and are with people we like, admire, and trust, we face our belly buttons towards them. I too have been in this marriage for almost 20 years now. I let him know. And I did. everytime i tell him like i feel like youre having an affair he gets mad n tells me im too much.pls help me =/. And it did. Say hes no hooked, and it doesnt appear that he is craving the drug, but 2 things scare me. So I have NEVER suspected my husband of cheating til recently. Come back anytime, and let me know how youre doing! Nothing short of traumatic head injury can (should?) he kept on ringing in my ears that he was the most loyal man i could ever find and probably the only one to love me best. When we got to the wake she comes in and he goes up to her and ask me if I know her and I again I said no. What does your gut tell you about your husband cheating? He dont see how this is affected or family.. Found out husband had 2nd affair with same girl He begged for me to stay This was 4 years ago told and he still has not come clean He has been really sweet lately Told him I can not get past it if he cannot be open & honest Recently and in past he told he does not care how I feel Where do I go from here if not out the door Recently he, My husband cheated threw my trust right out the door It has been 4 years i told them both they could have each other. Lately, hes late Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday and do not call if he is. But the sex is different, he doesnt look at my face, and seems to want to try more kinky ideas and he isnt making love to me. I still do not know to this day what was worse founding out about him having an affair or what went on after he was found out. I thought we were so perfect together, he was my safe place and my best friend. I know now he runs around with other women too behind his wifes back! Why arent you guys married, after more than four years together? I was wondering if I should just leave him now or wait until I have concrete evidence? So when he went to the strip club 3 weeks after I delivered, I asked him did he have fun. He says that he loves nothing more than me and they meant NOTHING to him then the pure satisfaction of nailing other woman like a macho man does. Thank u very much! He even wiped his Ipad from everything you possibly can wipe. If you have children, you do not want to show them this as an acceptable way to treat people, or allow yourself to be treated. my husband is not showing interest on me. My world was shattered. And most importantly stop accusing him and telling him everything you know. What 2 do? Ive read emails and text messages my husband composed to someone. I feel like if u separate temporarily you guys may rediscover why you fell in love and get back to a healthy, loving, trusting, and respectful relationship. When I confronted him same act the mad mood. About a month into our relationship he became more interested infriends and drinking than me. For the most part, we get along great. Move on and leave him behind. Whatever your reason for asking us, my dear, here is my personal answer. She is right.follow that feeling 2 inches behind your belly button. I dont like divorce so i like to think people can try to work through it the first and only time it happens but more than once is a slap in the face and him saying he doesnt care, which he probabley doesnt. Ive tried, but nothing is pointing toward someone who wants me for ME. I asked her if she had an emotional attachement and she said she was not attached to him but the business/shop. one day he come to my flat and i start pack my small bag i was going out so he start to questioning me, pull me i told him iam going to my fatherhouse. but any time I confront him now he gets very angry and very defensive. Husbands arent appreciated at home, so they cheat. Required fields are marked *. Good luck to you both. If you confront your husband based on rumors or fake news, its not going to end well or provide any closure for you. You always have known that in some form or another, he cheated but you stayed. He seemed really nervous about it. Is your husband lying about cheating? My boy friend and I were seeing each other for a little over a month, and he asked me out about 3 weeks ago. I know what youre experiencing. From June of last year to March of 2011, he lived and worked in a different city. Finally, after he entered a treatment faicility for alcoholism and sex addition, I have decided to leave the marriage. Not only has your faith and trust in your husband been destroyed, but he also has one step in his cheating life. I hate to say this, but physical cheating (sex) isnt the only way a husband may betray his wife. i have asked him in the past who women were calling his phone and he gets very defensive telling me i dont need to snoop through his phone, yet he gave it to me to use while mine is turned offhe doesnt want me in any way any more and it hurts3 children later and im not good enough anymore?what do i do? He walked to his vehicle and left the parking lot and I proceeded into the store. while drinking and talking he would blame me for his drinking, he tolde he would leave if i didnt change me, when i felt he needed to change sum things as well. For men, significant predictors of infidelity are personality variables, including propensity for sexual excitation (becoming easily aroused by many triggers and situations) and concern about sexual performance failure. Doesnt offer a ride to a nearby urgent care to have it checked out. 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